Nah, it’s one of those things where I know everyone has their own way of managing relationship decisions.

It isn’t abusive, it isn’t an out of line way of responding, and it’s a reasonable boundary for a monogamous marriage. It may or may not be a boundary that everyone has, but it isn’t unreasonable.

Now, me? I’m fine with the concept. Me and my wife sometimes travel without each other, and with friends of the “opposite” sex. To us it wouldn’t be an issue. If we didn’t trust each other, we wouldn’t be married.

I might or might not be comfortable with where the resort is though. Some places just aren’t reliably safe for any tourist, much less a naked female tourist, though I doubt a reputable resort is going to be any more unsafe than any hotel in that regard. Those places tend to have decent security.

But, nah, no red flags here. Just a married couple making a decision together.

The only thing one person can do is get armed, get trained, and get ready.

I would say that people being able to have access to gentle, quiet means of exercising their right to death is a positive, period.

But you start making organ donation mandatory, you run into some heavy issues.

Well, I’m no longer working.

But I used to prefer night shifts since I’m a notorious insomniac and tended to do better that way.

For most of my twenties and into my thirties, I would work 60 - 80 hour weeks spread out between home health (nurse’s assistant) and bouncing for a couple of club/bar owners, plus some less steady side gigs.

Having a life was difficult. But nobody can work every day without breaking down, so I’d usually make sure to have a day or two a week for myself. Usually lol.

Since my default, most refreshing sleep range was and is from about 2 am to 10 pm, I would usually not be too far off from that most of the time. So I didn’t have that constant sense of being off that working a standard 1st or 2nd shift would give me.

That brimming being said, the pay differential is what pulls people to 3rd and other night shifts. Things like a Baylor shift are often a great way to get paid as much or more, while having a little more time away from work too. So that’s a big perk if you can sustain it.

I didn’t keep myself healthy though. Oh, I ate well enough; I was hiking, camping, lifting weights, doing martial arts. But I was also averaging out to maybe 6 hours of sleep a day. That grinds you down, no matter who you are. I reached a point towards the end of my working life that I was frazzled, grumpy, not thinking clearly. My body wasn’t recovering properly either, so there was always some injury or another nagging. Which, since I was bouncing places that had a proclivity for outright attacks against customers, that could mean stuff that was pretty bad.

My mental health deteriorated as well. Depression was with me since I was a kid. So was PTSD. Doing mostly end of life care, and seeing as much violence as I did exacerbated the depression, added new layers to the PTSD, which also came with anxiety and panic attacks. Nightmares I’d wake up screaming and punching from. Shit got pretty real.

But I did manage to have a life. A very busy and sometimes crazy one. I made time for dating as well as my hobbies. I managed to keep my shit together and help raise one of my friend’s son after his father died. Did some partying along the way. Went to school twice (once to go for my RN, then for psychology), but couldn’t manage to finish either time.

I packed twice the years into those twenty years. Every time I think of it now, I’m amazed I survived it all. There were a horrifying number of close calls tbh, what with the fights and pushing myself alone in the mountains. I’m fifty, and have been disabled for as long as I worked, since I started working at 17.

But it was taxing, and definitely not worth it overall. Didn’t ever make enough money to do more than get by at the official jobs, and my side gigs weren’t reliable enough to make up for that.

Since you’re here asking this, you definitely need to avoid night work if you can. I naturally default to being awake at nights, so it wasn’t even that bad for me. If I’d been the typical daytime kind of person, I’d have fallen apart even sooner. If you keep doing it, you’ll be accelerating the eventual end of your ability to work.

Well, sometimes, you’ll get votes just for being on topic, no matter what the content of the comment is.

Thousands seems out of line for that kind of thing though.

But shit, my highest upvoted post on reddit ever was a one line quip. It was funny, but not that good. I’d make detailed, sourced mini essays and get negative votes.

Lemmy is a bit better about voting up for both topicality and effort to be sure. But we’re also all human, so not everyone fact checks everything they come across before voting. They’ll often vote based on “truthiness” as much as anything else. I say they, but I catch myself doing it too. I’ll run across someone that put good effort in, was on topic, and at least tried to be useful, and that’s worth the up vote. Could be wrong as hell, and I’d still think that. But I don’t have the inclination to fact check everything. And I don’t always have the stamina to respond even when I know there’s something off or outright wrong, but I’m not going to down vote unless I suspect they were wrong with ill intent.

So, I think you may have run across something that, while fallacious, is not egregiously so, and/or still nestles into the community’s specific bias even if they’re aware it’s fallacious.

Which, btw, sometimes something can have logical fallacies and not be bad. Doesn’t even have to be wrong, though it’s like math class where if you did the work wrong, if shouldn’t matter if you got the right answer. But on a multiple choice test, you can end up acing a test by accident as long as you’re making the same mistakes the right way.

I dunno, forums with voting out vote like functions are weird. As soon as you think you’ve figured things out, you’ll run into things that make no sense again.

New.

You get to see stuff early, you get less repeats, you have more chances at lucking into good conversations because you can comment and be way more likely to be seen, thus upping the chances of setting the vibe for any responses as opposed to jumping into stuff that’s already ongoing.

Plus, in most apps, you can tell when you’re back to things you’ve already seen easier. You don’t run across a post that’s marked read and have to keep scrolling anyway.

Now the downside is that you see the bad stuff early too. And, if you don’t want to engage and would rather be able to leave short comments that only OP will see, it’s harder.

I’ve tried all the sort methods, and only new gives me the kind of experience I enjoy.

I tell ya, this makes me want to get a new camera and start shooting for fun again.

I’ve never been a pro, and never even did paid work with any regularity. And I’m sure as hell not able to make what I think of photographic art, but it sure as hell was fun. Sold off almost everything years ago though. For whatever reason, phone cameras just don’t “feel” right, and the pictures I get aren’t what I want them to be.

But this kind of art? It’s inspiring.