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  • You’re definitely not the only one, since you’re not gonna notice the other people keeping it to themselves, because they’ll be keeping it to themselves.

    That said, some people just… Don’t. And learning that level of self-control is hard. If you don’t have the skill, feelings can seem uncontrollable and inevitable. Confronting such a person with a request that they do something (control themselves) you know is possible, but they think isn’t, often leads to bad results. Instead, you need to trick them into learning the art. That is, if they aren’t so bad they straight up need anger management classes.

    Apologizing after the fact is something we who actively consider others, and think about what the world is like for people other than ourselves, do naturally. But some people completely lack internal thoughts concerning anyone aside from themselves.

    It doesn’t automatically mean they are selfish (though it often coincides with that) but it does mean someone might have to remind them that they owe you or someone else a courtesy, because otherwise they simply won’t realize.

    People tend to react better if you ask them to apologize to someone else, than if you ask them apologize to you. If a person like this was difficult with someone else, too, you might first suggest to them that they give them and apology, instead of you. “Hey, I know you didn’t mean that outburst, but I think it really bothered insert person, you should say something to take it back.” You might not get an apology out of them for yourself this way, but it will put the thought in their heads, that when they lose control, they will cause lingering feelings that will need addressing afterwards.

    Some will react badly even then, insisting the insulted party needs to “grow a pair, and shrug it off, it’s not like I meant it”. They’re not necessarily a lost cause, they might still mull it over and experience guilt they might not have had you said nothing. I once successfully made this point to my mother. Instead of apologizing to me, she was telling me I can’t take every word she says to heart, she’ll say hurtful things when angry, but not really mean them. To this I responded, that she is my mother. To me, her words feel like truth, even when I know they aren’t, because I love and respect her too much to just shrug off what she said.

    If the person being difficult is normally very pleasant, or in a respected position, you might make a similar argument.

    Personally, when people seem out of control for reasons unrelated to me, I will literally say that, out loud. Something like “You are being difficult/rude/loud for some reason, we can’t talk like this, we should resume this conversation after you take a moment”. But this is tricky if it’s someone I’m supposed to defer to, rather than the other way around.

    If they don’t take that que to apologize once they’re back to being cordial, I might comment something like “I know I wasn’t the reason you got mean, but I’d still like to hear you confirm that you didn’t intend it”.

    Once you start getting apologies, you might start having conversations about not taking it out on people in the first place, these conversations (and any real talk, really) need to take place while the person is calm, and likely to actually think about what you’re saying. Again, don’t present something they might feel is an impossible task, frame it so that it’s something they’ll feel is doable. Suggest they find an alternate way to deal with the feelings, that doesn’t target a person, but make sure to mention you don’t know exactly how that’s done. You might mention stuff that works for you, for reference, but ultimately it’s a skill every person kinda has to figure out for themselves.

    Or go to therapy, for.







  • VR works on linux. That is indisputable.

    As in the software. No part of a linux OS prevents the necessary components, game engines, graphics drivers, etc, from functioning. It runs. You cannot claim otherwise without specifying an adverse environment.

    If you’re genuinely trying to convince me that your logic makes sense, please start by justifying double standards, keeping in mind that any genuinely excusable double standard, is by definition, not a double standard.

    I’d rather you didn’t, I tuned out when you acknowledged you’re presenting a personal opinion, rather than a generally perceivable consensus.

    I am sorry that the peripheral specifics of analogies confuse you, but please be aware that attacking them instead of the point itself, does not invalidate the logic that makes it applicable in illustrating a point.

    If requiring every conceivable mode of operation to work, is not always required, then it cannot be arbitrarily sometimes required, “because you say so”.

    You will not find majority agreement on this.


  • Then you’re going to have to acknowledge that your opinion disagrees with most others.

    And that a lot of people are going to consider accounting for what a piece of software “prides itself in” when defining what kind of standards need to be met for features to be considered “ready”, to be pretty weird.

    VR works on linux. That is indisputable. The majority of people have VR hardware that works on linux. That is indisputable.

    Linux is more than ready for gaming, but by your standards, it isn’t ready for that either because some games use a level of anti-cheat so invasive, it will never work.

    These games are “significant” in the same way WMR hardware is, if not moreso.




  • What’s your point?

    That microsoft didn’t enable the necessary software components to run windows mixed reality HMDs on linux?

    The reverbs never natively supported any open standards like SteamVR or OpenXR.

    WMR headsets are the ones that have been the hardest to get going with open VR systems like Monado, but that doesn’t mean that hardware that implemented sane standards isn’t already working great, which it is.

    That said, WMR is partially working at this time.

    Bottom line, if you use something that is actually supposed to work, it does. If you don’t, then yeah, the volunteer-created hacks to get things to work are still in progress.











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    Then that’s exactly what I have done.

    I read a lot of manga at my local library as a kid.

    Here, if a volume, or a series, is missing, the Helsinki library system allows you to browse where every library item they have is, in every library in the tri-city area.

    It’s in a library far away? You can request it for lending, and it will be moved to a library of your choosing, where you can then go pick it up. There’s a copy in a nearby library? You can still request it be moved, but it’s faster to just go there, borrow it from there. And when returning it, any library will do, no need to travel back to the one you got it from. All the units they have are currently lent out? You can sign up to be in line to borrow one.

    I regularly put in requests to be able to check out entire series all at once, binging every single volume that existed of something in a single weekend. Then keeping track and putting in requests to have a copy of any new volumes be available at my local library, right after publishing.

    You can request stuff that isn’t in the system, and if there’s at least a couple people interested, it will probably get acquired. One Piece 103 in finnish is not yet out, and HelMet already has info on their site tracking 9 copies that they’ve ordered, with one person in line waiting to borrow one of them asap.

    Not everything is available of course, but it’s a lot. The manga category currently has 6940 unique items. And HelMet cares about making sure there aren’t gaps. What’s the point of free libraries if you can’t read stuff from beginning to end?