If it sounds ridiculous to be having someone accuse you of shit you didn’t do
You literally do this all the time. A vote for third parties? Not a vote for Trump, you still blame them for the election of Trump. A non-vote? Not a vote for Trump. Same goes for people who didn’t like Kamala and were openly critical of her, but still voted for her.
You’re being a child. Either you think Trump’s election is the result of the entire electorate or you don’t. There’s no “except for people who voted for Democrats and were properly enthusiastic about it” get out of jail free card.
Either we’re all to blame or only the people who actually voted for him are to blame. You can’t have it both ways.
As for your sympathy, you should probably keep it to yourself anyway. Nobody wants it. You would only use it to manipulate people anyway.